1. Always mediate in good faith.
2.Have an open mind. Focus on mediation and do not take or make phone calls to distract you during your sessions.
3.Know you will not get everything you want and neither will the other side. This is not a sporting event.
4.You get to tell the mediator your side of the story. Prepare three main points you think the mediator must know.
5. Behave yourself and keep your cool, temper tantrums , threats, crying fits will hurt your case. A few tears are understandable.
6.Be respectful to the mediator he/ she is acting in a judge like capacity. Refer to mediator as Ms. Or Mr. until the mediator suggests other wise.
7.Do not yell at your attorney during mediation or at the other attorney. This places you in a bad light in front of the mediator. Your attorney does not appreciate being called names and could fire you as a client.
8. Refer to your soon to be ex spouse in neutral and positive terms . This is not the time to refer to the mother or father of your children in derogatory terms. Your Michigan family lawyer can provide you with a list of appropriate terms for assistance.
9. If you are on a prescribed medication for anxiety or depression take it prior to mediation. Eat before going to mediation , it is not the role of the mediator to feed you. Bring you own non- alcoholic beverage or bottled water.
10. Bring something you can do quietly to entertain yourself as there will be times when you will be waiting. A magazine, book, suduko, IPad, or knitting are all appropriate. Musical instruments, porn magazines, sporting goods and illegal drugs are NOT recommended.
If you have additional questions about Michigan mediation, contact our firm, and we can further discuss the process.